Growing Through What You Never Asked For

I heard this quote one time. It said in life there are three things that are always happening.. you’re either just getting out of some shit, going through some shit, or heading into some shit.

It’s echoed all throughout this year, ranging from small to large. It’s felt like the moment I found solid footing, the sand beneath me started to vibrate and I was forced to maneuver, bend, and fold into what was needed.

I’m at a crossroads now; where I’m realizing maybe the intention of me going through such things wasn’t or isn’t about contorting myself to fit in.. but maybe to expand even further, to become a magnet for what it is I’m calling in.

Finding consistency with Metanoia Madness and seeing our community grow brings me so much joy.. and oddly enough, a stronger sense of responsibility toward my words, my choices, and the stories I share.

I think that’s what this season has been teaching me.. that expansion isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes it looks like being stretched in ways you didn’t ask for. It looks like endings you didn’t expect and opportunities that don’t arrive on your timeline.

But in the middle of all that, something shifts inside you.

You start realizing that what’s falling apart is just making room for what’s trying to take root.

You begin to see how the very moments that once felt like detours were actually redirections.

I’ve been learning to sit with that.. to not rush the process, to not label everything as good or bad. Just to let it be what it is. Because maybe life isn’t asking me to figure it out right now.. maybe it’s asking me to stay open enough to receive what’s next.

There’s a quiet strength that comes from surviving your own transitions. You stop chasing stability in the external world and start finding it in yourself. You realize you can be in the middle of the storm and still be centered.

And that’s where I feel like I’m standing now.. somewhere between what’s ending and what’s beginning, learning to trust that both are sacred.

To everyone who’s been part of this journey through Metanoia Madness, thank you. Watching this community grow and seeing how deeply these conversations resonate reminds me why I started. It’s not about perfection or performance.. it’s about truth. It’s about the messy, human parts of transformation that remind us we’re never alone in it.

So wherever you are right now.. whether you’re getting out of something, in the thick of it, or just beginning to feel the next wave rise.. trust that it’s shaping you. Not into someone else, but into more of who you already are.

Because every bend, every shake, every unexpected shift is just life expanding you.

And maybe that’s the point after all.

— Nicholas

Metanoia Madness

P.S. HAPPY HALLOWEEN!

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